I just started reading All in the Same Boat by Tom Neale a few days ago. The book is a pragmatic guide to living aboard a cruising sailboat—something that my wife and I have been dreaming of doing for a long time and was a driving factor in our move to Florida.
I picked the book up on a whim several months ago and am just now getting to it. Tom used to write a column for a sailing magazine that I subscribe to so I’ve been familiar with his name, but I never really knew anything about him until I read the introduction to the book.
Excerpt:
Most of us live restricted lives, but we are seldom sure of who are what is in control. We do know that it isn’t us. We have jobs, the main purpose of which is to support other jobs. Few of these jobs are relevant to our daily well-being, except that they bring in money so we can have things done for use that we could probably do better for ourselves or do without.
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We are told whether our children can pray; we are told that our children must learn things whether we, as parents, think they are appropriate; we are told that our children must comply with social standards and values established by governmental committees; and we then see that our children haven’t learned the basic skills of reading, writing, and arithmetic.
Blackouts tell it all. During a blackout, we often can’t get water to drink, we can’t get air into the enclosed structures where we work and live, our stored food thaws and begins to rot, our traffic becomes hopelessly snarled, we can’t get gasoline from the electric pumps, we can’t learn from “the authorities” what to do, and there’s not much that we could do anyway.
We are helplessly dependent on a supply system that, with a hiccup, could leave us starving. What would happen to your family if the convenience store around the corner didn’t have food tomorrow? What would happen if the large grocery store in the shopping center didn’t open—and the next one down the street? Do you have enough stores in your house to get by for several days? Most of us count on being able to go to the grocery store every few days. We never consider buying for a month or more. If the supply were disrupted, we would have very little to get us by, and we’d begin to wonder who in the neighborhood might have what we need.
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The family—the building block of civilization—is nearing extinction. We rely on outsiders for social training, education, vocational training, and just about everything else. The outsiders may or may not have the best interests of our children at heart, and they may or may not know what they are talking about. Families no longer work together for a tangible, common goal. We seldom gather together for daily family meals, to eat and talk. Even family gatherings are dominated by lots of people and lots of distractions that that prevent meaningful communication. Our houses have lots of separate rooms (a measure of our “success”), replete with televisions and computers with Internet hookups to anything and everything outside the home. Almost nothing in our homes promotes getting together as a family and communicating. Most of the time we aren’t even in our homes. And the intelligentsia of our society, in a feeble excuse to justify failure, are now proclaiming in treatises and journals that the family isn’t really important anyway.
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You can take control of your existence. You can start doing things for yourself instead of for a “system”. You can be a family instead of a splintered group. You can raise your children to understand responsibility, to know self-discipline, and to appreciate real values. And you can know the children you raise. You can breathe clean air. You can see the stars through clear skies. You can fill your days with adventure, and you can walk on white sands and share beautiful sunsets. You and your family can go cruising. But you’ve got to work at it.
After reading that introduction I felt I could relate to the author because I share some of the same thoughts. But that is not what the book is about. The book is about living on a sailboat, but knowing that part of what is driving me to sea also drove him makes the book that much more real and the dream that much more possible.
Postscript
Typing in that excerpt got me all fired up and I continued on a tirade about all the things that are wrong with our society. I’m not going to post that part (for now) because I think the fourth post is a little early to start foaming at the mouth. I did not intend for this blog to become a personal soapbox for me to espouse my positions on political, social, and philosophical issues. It wasn’t long ago that I held opposite positions on many of those issues and I’m not quite sure I want Google indexing and storing that stuff for posterity.